PeakPerformer News – Apr 08

Welcome to the April 2008 Newsletter of Health Pursuit!  We hope you find our tips, information and articles useful throughout the year and that we can inspire you in creating a life filled with an abundance of Vitality, Performance and Lifestyle!

Inspirational Quotes

 

 ”Everyone wants to be appreciated, so if you appreciate someone, don’t keep it a secret.”
 - Mary Kay Ash, 1915-2001, Founder of Mary Kay Cosmetics

 ”Bitterness imprisons life; love releases it. Bitterness paralyzes life; love empowers it. Bitterness sours life;   love sweetens it. Bitterness sickens life; love heals it. Bitterness blinds life; love anoints its eyes.”
 - Harry Emerson Fosdick, 1878-1969, Minister

“The greatest good you can do for another is not just to share your riches, but to reveal to him his own.”
Benjamin Disraeli.
- 1804-1881, Former British Prime Minister

7 Tips For Strengthening Key Relationships

In today’s worldwide community, we are relating to people in many ways, both our in business and personal spheres.  Wikipedia (www.wikipedia.org) defines “relationships” as involving associations, connections, or affiliations between two or more people; including those we interact with locally and globally; openly or secretly; face-to-face, via internet or phone; and may even be relationships where each is effectively unknown to the other (as in a virtual community whose members may be anonymous).

In amongst all the people you are relating to, business and personal, consider which key people you would like to build a better quality of relationship with.  Where could you benefit from reducing the:
·         Conflict?
·         Resistance and struggle?
·         Poor communication?
·         Withdrawal or backing away?
·         Dragging yourself to establish contact?
·         Frustration, resentment or annoyance?
·         Feeling unappreciated or unacknowledged?

Dealing with dissatisfaction and tension in your key relationships can liberate valuable energy, boosting your vitality, performance and lifestyle.   áAction = áResults.

Ready to create more satisfying relationships?

1.  Take responsibility in all situations.  Even when there is a situation your don’t agree with, take a step back and observe the situation with objective eyes, and begin to see how you are contributing.  Not recognising your role avoids responsibility and leads to blaming:
·         Yourself
·         The other person
·         The event
·         The circumstances.
Blaming disempowers, blinding our ability to think, act and respond resourcefully; perpetuating the situation to continue again and again – same issues, different people.  Viewed as feedback, any situation can be an opportunity to develop knowledge, skills and creativity.
Where will you take responsibility in key relationships?

2.  Consider the messages being communicated.  When we are communicating our message,  7% is words, 38% is tonality and 55% is body language.  To enhance communication, be mindful of how you are delivering the message.  If you don’t get the response you want, consider how you delivered the information.  What were your thoughts, feelings and intentions at the time?  These can be projected through your tone, words and body language, without you even realising it.  Become aware of how you are verbally and non-verbally expressing your message.
What are you projecting when you communicate?

3.  Honour both people’s goals.  Dissatisfaction interferes with how we interpret situations and how we relate to others.  If either person is not doing the things which give life meaning and purpose, there will be an impact on the relationship.  Ensure that sufficient time, energy and money is invested into actions which keep your key relationships on track.  Be sure to incorporate actions into each of the 8 key Wheel of Life areas:
 ·         Business/Career
·         Finances
·         Relationships
·         Spiritual
·         Rest & Rejuvenation
·         Physical Wellbeing
·         Personal Development
·         Community/Contribution
Are you clear about the goals of your key relationships?

4.         Seek to understand core values.  Fundamentally, people are motivated to live according to their own core values.  To gain some insights, consider how they fill their space, spend their time, spend their energy, spend their money, where they are most organised and where they are most disorganised.  When you learn their values and communicate in terms of their values hierarchy, they feel understood.  Encourage them to live with integrity, in accordance with their values.
How aware are you of the core values of your key relationships?

5. Clarify what you want to give and receive.  In any relationship there is give and take - so be clear on the parameters of the energy you are exchanging.  Unless you give willingly and with an open heart, there will be underlying imbalance in the energy exchanged.  This can translate into underlying resentment which diminishes the quality of the connection.  To develop and maintain quality relationships, both people must feel that they are getting equal value.
What will you willingly give to grow your key relationships?

6. Resolve issues from your past.  When we don’t resolve issues, we carry them around inside us.  Eventually a person comes along who inadvertently stirs up those unresolved feelings.  We may link the reaction to the present person, unleashing the full brunt of our emotions - all that bottled up emotional energy of the past.  Your vehement reaction may be disproportionate to the current circumstance.  The truth is those buttons were just waiting there to be pushed!
Where is your past affecting the quality of current key relationships?    

7.  Express your gratitude in ways the receiver will appreciate.  Recognise the blessings of how they, being exactly as they are, support you in being you.  Demonstrate your appreciation of their contribution to your life by expressing it in ways which are meaningful to them.  What speaks volumes to you may be meaningless to another.  Some key ways gratitude can be expressed includes gifts, words, physical affection and acts of service.
How can you express meaningful gratitude in key relationships?

Strengthening key relationships is an important part of focusing your mental, physical and spiritual energies to achieve your goals.  A coach can help you to create the clarity, strategies, tools and habits to support the relationship outcomes you truly desire. 

For more information, on how Health Pursuit can assist you to enhance your relationships, and become an outstanding success, contact Lisa McDonald, Strategic Life Management Coach, at +61 (03) 412 291 079 or send an email to info@healthpursuit.com.au.

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